Dirk De Wachter’s Vertroostingen is a poignant and introspective work that delves into the meaning of human existence. Written in the wake of his own cancer diagnosis, the renowned Flemish psychiatrist-psychotherapist offers a deeply personal exploration of what brings meaning and comfort in times of suffering.
Central to De Wachter’s reflections is the concept of “the small good”—the simple, everyday acts of kindness and presence that forge genuine human bonds. He posits that true consolation lies not in grand gestures or material distractions but in the attentive presence of another person. Drawing on the philosophy of Emmanuel Levinas, De Wachter emphasizes that we exist through the gaze of the other, and that recognizing the other as fundamentally unknowable is, paradoxically, a source of profound comfort. He cautions against the illusion of fully understanding someone else, suggesting that such attempts can be a form of violation, and instead advocates for being present with full attention and wonder.
Throughout the book, De Wachter weaves in a rich tapestry of cultural references—from the music of Leonard Cohen and Nick Cave (also personal heroes of mine) to the paintings of Francis Bacon and the writings of Michel Houellebecq—illustrating how art, philosophy, and ritual can serve as vessels of consolation. His prose is warm and poetic, inviting readers to find beauty and meaning even amidst pain.
In an era where organizational metrics and key performance indicators often overshadow human interaction, Vertroostingen serves as a gentle reminder of the importance of genuine connection. It calls for a shift in focus towards being present with colleagues, offering attentive support, and valuing the small acts of kindness that can have a profound impact. Many organizations can be warmer and more human than they currently are.
In summary, Vertroostingen is a heartfelt meditation on the human condition, emphasizing the transformative power of presence, empathy, and the small good. De Wachter’s reflections encourage a reevaluation of what truly matters, both in personal relationships and within broader societal contexts. It is a compelling read for anyone seeking to understand the nuances of consolation and the profound impact of genuine human connection.
Vertroostingen. Gewone woorden van. Dirk de Wachter. Lannoo Campus, 2022